Living at home with parents and dating
But all in all, she found the whole situation almost impossibly awkward. Living at home definitely kept me from feeling comfortable meeting new people, and one time I flat-out lied about where I lived."That impulse is understandable, according to Sherry Amatenstein, LCSW, a New York-based couples' therapist.
Millennials are “in a stage of life when they’re trying to figure out who they are,” she explains, which can make moving home a difficult adjustment, both professionally and personally." She says it’s important for women living with their parents to be open about their current housing arrangement with new friends and dating prospects, but not to make a massive deal out of it.
“I don't want to rush through life anymore,” Sandy says.
“I’m trying to appreciate working on things that interest me in my spare time, like cooking, and [I want to] spend a lot of time with family.
I don't see myself living with my mom forever, but for right now, I’m really happy here,” she acknowledges.
Still, Sandy is working through some “personal uneasiness” about what living at home says about her.
At home, she realized she “craved adventure,” she says.She’s hoping to avoid another return home, although she fears that if she doesn’t find a job immediately, she may have no better choice.“When you're over 30, I [think] there's [more] stigma attached to living at home,” she observes.“Sandy,” 29Sandy moved back home with her mom last November after trying to make ends meet for five years on a paltry salary.Over the past few years, the percentage of 25-to-34-year-old Americans living with their parents has been at a record high of nearly 15%.Student debt and difficulty finding a job are sending millennials back home in droves — and though this type of arrangement is certainly easier on the wallet, it can wreak havoc on a young adult’s self-image.
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Nothing kills the mood faster.”Another time, she went out for pizza with some friends after the bars had closed (she was 24 at the time). After that conversation, her mom and dad began putting in the effort “not to treat me like their child living at home, but their adult daughter living at home.”That’s exactly what needs to happen, Amatenstein insists.