Dating after death of a spouse
Ultimately, the choice is a personal one and there is no set timeline.If you or a loved one is thinking about dabbling in the dating pool after the loss of a spouse, there are a few things to consider. "Someone married for 20 years to a partner who dies of a long standing disease will have a different experience than a 25-year-old whose partner died suddenly in a car accident," says relationship therapist Leslie Malchy.Prior to that, they were happily married (according to her own account and everyone who knew them). There are even some Jewish bereavement groups that meet in person in major cities like Los Angeles. There are many online support groups for people who have lost a spouse.En español | In the course of my work as a sex and relationship educator, I frequently run workshops about dating after age 50.My audiences are people who are motivated enough to show up at such an event — but scared silly about diving into a dating world they hadn't even thought about for decades!You can also read Joysa’s blog on progressive Jewish topics and politics.Exploring Your Readiness to Date Entering the Dating Scene Going on a Date Community Q&A The death of a spouse can be one of the most devastating life events one endures.
Aside from feelings of guilt and fear, widows and widowers might also feel pressure, conflict and confusion.
Some widows/widowers may have the urge to start dating quickly, while others may prefer to take more time.
Some may even choose to remain single indefinitely.
In person, on the phone, via the Internet, whatever. For those who maintained a social life based on interests and not just couples’ friends, the journey is a bit easier.
Likewise for those whose partner’s death was not unexpected.